It can be so so frustrating to be a feminist and be totally aware of all the pressures on women and the Beauty Myth etc… but then continue to be susceptible to them. Like you’ve failed. But just because you know how something works and you know something is wrong, doesn’t make you capable of rising above it. And feeling like it should is just yet another fucking example of women feeling guilty about being themselves, about being flawed. Feminists are not perfect, women are not perfect, people are not perfect. Feminism should be, at its very base, about accepting that men and women are equal and human and normal. Not another complex layer of perfection to strive towards and flagellate ourselves over. We’re all part of this deeply flawed patriarchical system and it is impossible to remove ourselves from it so we should just do our best within our limits and BE KIND TO OURSELVES ffs. I feel so much compassion towards the writer for beating herself up over this, and it makes me realise I shouldn’t beat myself up either, duh. I need reminding sometimes.